越來越多身邊的朋友，開始步入人生的這個階段。
隨著年紀的增長，常常會有機會，
去參加朋友的婚禮，
而身邊交往許久的朋友們，
也逐漸開始產生了這樣的期待，
當然，也有不少的人，雖然單身，
但已經開始尋找這樣可以陪伴她在人生道路上行走的伴侶，
常常，
我都會想，
會不會太刻意去尋找這樣的對象，
反而越難得到，
而究竟又是什麼樣的對象，
才適合一起走入結婚的禮堂呢？
或許，
我們未必能確定怎樣的人適合自己，
但我相信，
兩人相處假若能互相禮讓，
互相著想，
能夠為了對方有所捨棄，
這樣為對方著想的心意，
或許，
就有機會有個美好的婚姻。
By FrankC
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吳若權
2008年07月23日 蘋果日報
經營婚紗店的朋友，跟我抱怨：「現代年輕人，為什麼都不結婚？」我反問他：「你結婚這麼多年，從婚姻裡撈到什麼好處？」 不愧是頭腦轉得快的生意人，他立刻回我：「不能這樣精打細算的啦，太精明、太會算計的人，結不了婚！」他說對了。婚姻，能夠提供給比彼此的好處，真的太少了；能捨的人，才能結婚。
從前，婚姻提供兩人經濟生活的保障，婚姻提供彼此性愛歡愉的管道，婚姻提供雙方傳宗接代的名份……而這些保障、管道、名份，對現代年輕人而言，都未必需要。
兩人經濟學，只是便利商店打折的口號。一個人吃，絕對比餵飽兩張嘴要來得省。
當女人的經濟能力獨立、未婚也能夠很方便地享受性愛、養兒育女也不需要正式名份，婚姻就變成不是用來得到什麼的過程，而是願意割捨才能進入的修行。
收入習慣都要讓步
考慮婚姻之前，應該先問自己：願意為了對方割捨些什麼？割捨部分的收入或財產，拿這些身外之物來和對方分享，只是最基本的讓步。走進婚姻最踏實的第一步，應該是願意放下自我偏執，願意為了看到伴侶的滿足而付出，至少有了這兩個願意，才能在禮堂前當著上帝的面發誓說：「我願意！」
例如：生性懶散的男人，願意為了女人的一夜好眠，放棄自己多年來睡前不愛洗澡的習慣。又如：必須節食半年的女人，願意為了男人的嘴饞，偶爾陪他去大啖美食，吃頓豐富的海陸大餐。
婚姻，不是用來得到什麼；而是用來讓你懂得割捨。與其說，婚姻是兩個人願意相守下半輩子的承諾；不如說，婚姻是你願意為了成全所愛的人而割捨自己某些自利行為的選擇。
本文章引用自此
In Love Whit A Girl
Gavin Degraw
So many people gonna say that they want you,
To try to get you thinking they really care.
But there's nothing like the warmth of the one
who has put in the time and you know she's gonna be there.
Back your border when she knows someone crossed it,
Don't let nobody put you down, who you're with,
Take the pain of protecting your name
from the crutch to the cane to the highwire.
I'm in love with a girl who knows me better.
Fell for the woman just when I met her,
Took my sweet time when I was bitter,
Someone understands.
And she knows how to treat a fella right,
Gives me that feeling every night,
Wants to make love when I wanna fight.
Now someone understand me.
I'm in love with a girl (I'm in love with)(x2)
Out the many broken backdoors and windows,
Through the valley of the love of the lost,
Is a hole that is cut through the souls falling down
from the thrones without leaving any windows.
But you drown in a piece for the moment.
The moment was over in time.
Then its gone the hit and run the tactless one has a short life.
I'm in love with a girl who knows me better.
Fell for the woman just when I met her,
Took my sweet time when I was bitter,
Someone understands.
And she knows how to treat a fella right,
Gives me that feeling every night,
Wants to make love when I wanna fight.
Now someone understand me.
I'm in love with a girl (I'm in love with)(x2)
Gonna tell you what you do to think you practice what you preach,
Now I know there's nothing we can't reach.
'Cause the heart can't erase
once it finds a place to be warm and welcome.
To be held in shelter.
I'm in love with a girl who knows me better.
Fell for the woman just when I met her,
Took my sweet time when I was bitter,
Someone understands.
And she knows how to treat a fella right,
Gives me that feeling every night,
Wants to make love when I wanna fight.
Now someone understands me
I'm in love with a girl (I'm in love with)(x3)
Who knows me better,
Wants to make love when I wanna fight.
Now someone understand me.
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