刀大說:『如果兩個人剛剛在一起不久,吵架是感情增溫的徵兆。』

但在我的記憶中,
我的感情經驗,
卻不是這樣告訴我的,

刀大又說:
『要是「終於願意」吵個架,
大概是雙方都覺得兩人的感情已經具備「來吵個架吧!」的基礎,
覺得「激烈碰撞一下也不至於分手吧」!』


我想...
或許這跟感情的目標有關,
雖然我完全同意刀大的話
而且我也同意吵架跟分手應該是兩回事情,
但在現實的人生中,
卻未必如此,

一方面,假若剛交往不久,
就面臨了吵架,
有時候不是雙方都覺得感情基礎穩定,
反而可能是雙方覺得彼此 " 不合適 " 的警訊,
畢竟剛在熱戀期的兩人,
正應該不可能生氣的狀況,
但竟然有憤怒掩蓋了甜蜜,
實為一個潛在的危機。

確實有很多的離婚或分手是來自於吵架,
當然我也聽過,大吵一架後,再瘋狂發生性關係的美好,
吵架應該是感情磨合的一種方法及過程,
應該是兩人有談感情的共同目標,
然後盡情的吵架,
只是為了讓彼此相處的更加融洽,
讓彼此更快把心中的話說出,
找到一個專屬於彼此相處的方法,
但..
如果可以,
我還是不這麼建議..

畢竟,
吵架也是會一點一滴的耗損彼此的感情,
事情,
可以用說的,
在彼此情緒平靜時,
一樣能將心中的話,
全盤拖出,
可能會比在憤怒的心情下,
大力的說出,
正常多了!!




【延伸閱讀】
September 11, 2008 
ELLE18,安慰女孩的五步驟 /九把刀






One Week
Barenaked Ladies


It's been one week since you looked at me
Cocked your head to the side and said "I'm angry"
Five days since you laughed at me saying
"Get that together come back and see me"
Three days since the living room
I realized it's all my fault, but couldn't tell you
Yesterday you'd forgiven me
But it'll still be two days till I say I'm sorry

Hold it now and watch the hoodwink
As I make you stop, think
You'll think you're looking at Aquaman
I summon fish to the dish, although I like the Chalet Swiss
I like the sushi
'cause it's never touched a frying pan
Hot like wasabe when I bust rhymes
Big like LeAnn Rimes
Because I'm all about value
Bert Kaempfert's got the mad hits
You try to match wits, you try to hold me but I bust through
Gonna make a break and take a fake
I'd like a stinkin achin shake
I like vanilla, it's the finest of the flavours
Gotta see the show, cause then you'll know
The vertigo is gonna grow
Cause it's so dangerous,
You'll have to sign a waiver

How can I help it if I think you're funny when you're mad
Trying hard not to smile though I feel bad
I'm the kind of guy who laughs at a funeral
Can't understand what I mean?
Well, you soon will
I have a tendency to wear my mind on my sleeve
I have a history of taking off my shirt

It's been one week since you looked at me
Threw your arms in the air
And said "You're crazy"
Five days since you tackled me
I've still got the rug burns on both my knees
It's been three days since the afternoon
You realized it's not my fault
Not a moment too soon
Yesterday you'd forgiven me
And now I sit back and wait til you say you're sorry

Chickity China the Chinese chicken
You have a drumstick and your brain stops tickin'
Watchin' X-Files with no lights on
We're dans la maison
I hope the Smoking Man's in this one
Like Harrison Ford I'm getting frantic
Like Sting I'm tantric
Like Snickers, guaranteed to satisfy

Like Kurasawa I make mad films
Okay, I don't make films
But if I did they'd have a Samurai
Gonna get a set a' better clubs
Gonna find the kind with tiny nubs
Just so my irons aren't always flying off the back-swing
Gotta get in tune with Sailor Moon
'Cause that cartoon has got the boom anime babes
That make me think the wrong thing

How can I help it if I think you're funny when you're mad
Tryin' hard not to smile though I feel bad
I'm the kind of guy who laughs at a funeral
Can't understand what I mean?
You soon will
I have a tendency to wear my mind on my sleeve
I have a history of losing my shirt

It's been one week since you looked at me
Dropped your arms to your sides
And said "I'm sorry"
Five days since I laughed at you and said
"You just did just what I thought you were gonna do"
Three days since the living room
We realized we're both to blame,
But what could we do?
Yesterday you just smiled at me
'Cause it'll still be two days till we say we're sorry

It'll still be two days till we say we're sorry
It'll still be two days till we say wasabe
Birchmount Stadium, home of the Robbie







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